You know them when they walk in. The swagger of a wholehearted writer / musician / sculptor / painter / singer will stop a whole room.
These artists ooze seduction with every step. Their allure does not come from a physical appearance, nor spectacle, nor bravado.
It stems from self-confidence. From passion. From stripped down vulnerability. From a willingness to be open to you. From the capacity that you have to inspire him or her. From the chance for you to impact another’s creativity by being a muse.
Frida Kahlo spent much time alone due to the chronic pain after a childhood trolley accident, but even in the midst of pain, her spirit captivated everyone she met. She was crass, beautiful, and abrasive. She was vitality incarnate.
Diego Rivera, famed Mexican muralist (and Kahlo’s womanizing husband), glowingly said about her:
Frida is the only example in the history of art of an artist who tore open her chest and heart to reveal the biological truth of her feelings. The only woman who has expressed in her work an art of the feelings, functions, and creative power of woman.
This vulnerability — so intoxicating, so provocative, so sensual — is why Salma Hayek was cast to play her in the movie Frida.
This description of artists as “sexy” is not demeaning or belittling. It is not to detract from the artists’ acts of creation. It is to denote their power. Their magnetism.
Sexuality is a reaffirmation of the universe’s love and goodness and our connection to it. Sexual attraction represents our desire to connect. It is not driven by the manufactured “sexy” that appears in marketing everywhere — advertisements, movies, album covers…
Artists are not sexy because they don’t wash their hair enough. Or because they are skinny. Or because they smoke. Or because their clothes are just-the-right-amount-of-torn to be cool.
Artists become “sexy” only after experiencing their artwork or by meeting them in person. Only by this personal engagement can their vulnerability and passion lure you in.
Because artists have practice tuning in to their own heart in order to channel love into their creations, they can access the life-giving energy that we all crave.
[The artist who makes me swoon is Chris Thile, lead singer and mandolin player of the Punch Brothers. For all his mandolin ingenuity, there is not an ounce of wet-t-shirt-and-pouty-lips appeal about him. He does, however, wear his heart on display for everyone to see.]
When we become vulnerably creative and passionate, then a floodgate of opportunities to connect to others opens.
Spend time getting to know yourself. Hone your inherently unique creative expression of that self. Wear your heart on your sleeve.
You will be a magnetic force.
Use that force to draw people to you.
Use that force to change the world.